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Robert McIlwraith

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ROBERT DOUGLAS MCILWRAITH

December 25, 1951 – December 29, 2021

Dr. Robert McIlwraith, former Head of the Department of Clinical Health Psychology and former Medical Director of the WRHA Clinical Health Psychology Program, has died. He is survived by his wife, Wendy Josephson, son Christopher McIlwraith and daughter-in-law Emma Drury, and grandchildren Abigail and Theodore.  He is also survived by his sister Nancy Robinson, brothers-in-law Wally Robinson, Jaik Josephson, Brent Lott, and Gary Laidlaw, sister-in-law Kathie Josephson, mother-in-law Lillian Josephson, nephews Tom (Brandi), David (Jennifer), and Andrew (Jill) Robinson, nieces Amelia, Erin (Tim), and Justine Josephson-Laidlaw, great-nephews Daniel, Patrick, and Jake Robinson and Sol Harris, and great-nieces  Maya, Ariella, Aidah, and Sadie Robinson. 

 

Bob was born in Marathon, Ontario to Hugh and Ester McIlwraith, a Christmas present for his sister Nancy.  Bob’s bond with Nancy remained strong all his life.  As an adult, when facing a quandary or needing to think things through, be would often disappear into his study, saying “I’m going to call my sister.” He grew up in Marathon, and skipped grade 13 (then required in Ontario) by attending the Brock University Exceptional Student Summer Program and entering university after grade 12.  He subsequently attended the University of Winnipeg, graduating with an Honours BA in Psychology, then Acadia University, from which he graduated with a Master’s in Clinical Psychology, and the University of Manitoba, from which he obtained his PhD in Clinical Psychology. He completed his clinical internship at the Kitchener-Waterloo Hospital.

 

Bob spent his entire career at the Health Sciences Centre in Winnipeg and in the Faculty of Medicine at the University of Manitoba, except for a sabbatical year as a Research Fellow at the Marshall McLuhan Institute for Culture and Technology, at the University of Toronto.  He served as director of the Residency Program in the Department of Clinical Health Psychology for ten years, during which he oversaw the implementation and growth of the Rural and Northern Psychology Training Program, which recruited psychologists to rural communities and gave residents an immersive training experience in the skills and knowledge required for practice in these settings.  Many of the residents who trained in this program continue to practice in these rural communities or others across Canada.  Bob spent the last ten years of his career as Head of the Department of Clinical Health Psychology in the Faculty of Medicine at the University of Manitoba and Medical Director of the Clinical Health Psychology Program of the Winnipeg Regional Health Authority.   He oversaw the growth and expansion of psychological services into many new areas of health care, and was a relentless recruiter of new psychologists.   When he retired at the end of 2015, the Dr. Robert McIlwraith Excellence in Clinical Training Award was established by the Clinical Health Psychology Department in recognition of his contributions to the professional development of a generation of clinical psychologists.

 

Bob was active in the Canadian Psychological Association (CPA), serving on and chairing the CPA Accreditation Panel for Doctoral Programs and Internships, and was a frequent accreditation site visitor and trainer of site visitors.  He also was instrumental in the establishment of the CPA Section of Rural and Northern Psychology and the Section of Psychologists in Hospitals and Health Centres. He served a term as the President of the Canadian Council of Professional Psychology Programs and was on the Editorial Board of Canada’s Mental Health.  He was a Fellow of CPA, a Distinguished Life Member of the Manitoba Psychological Society (MPS) and the recipient of the Clifford J. Robson Award for Distinguished Contribution to Psychology in Manitoba from MPS and the Distinguished Professional Contributions to Rural and Northern Practice Award from the Section of Rural and Northern Psychology of CPA.

 

Bob was renowned for his kindness, his sense of humour, and the love and loyalty he demonstrated for his family and friends. His face would light up when he talked about his son Chris, and his darling grandchildren Abby and Theo brought him joy from the beginning of their lives until the end of his.  He found delight in travel, orange chocolate, circuses, looking at art, all things Disney, and Christmas.  He and Wendy shared an abiding love throughout their life together, marked by the comfort of shared daily rituals and by occasional adventures.

 

Thanks to Lisa and the other members of the Palliative Care Team of the WRHA for their skill, compassion, and ingenuity. We are forever grateful.

 

A celebration of Bob’s life will be held when pandemic conditions allow, and it is safe for the many people who loved him to gather together again.  An announcement will be placed in the Winnipeg Free Press when a date has been arranged.  In the meantime, Bob’s family kindly requests that his friends and relatives take a few minutes to honour his memory by visiting his tribute page at EthicalDeathCare.com. A photo-biography, as well as memories and stories published by those who knew him, are available there.

 

In lieu of flowers, those who wish to do so can make a donation in Bob McIlwraith’s memory to the Dr. Robert Martin Memorial Lecture Fund of the University of Manitoba.  This endowed fund, established in honour of Dr. Martin (the first Head of Psychology at the Health Sciences Centre) supports continuing education in the Department of Clinical Health Psychology. Link: University of Manitoba - Donation Form - Martin Memorial Lecture University of Manitoba (umanitoba.ca) OR Contact UM Donor Relations 204 474-9195 or UM Department of Clinical Health Psychology 204 787-5163.

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Gail Conrad Davey

September 25, 2024 at 7:32 PM

To Bob’s family -I haven’t seen or spoken to Bob in many years but often thought of him and was not surprised by his list of accomplishments in his chosen field. I knew Bob from “home” in Marathon - his  kindness & sense of humour are what I remember most.  I bet he loved crocuses - something we didn’t see at home till June(if we were lucky) .  My sincere condolences. Gail Conrad Davey (a Marathon connection)

Dan Perlman

September 25, 2024 at 7:32 PM

Dear Wendy,  My deepest sympathy. The video was touching and appreciated.  I especially liked the text statement "He and Wendy shared an abiding love throughout their life together, marked by the comfort of shared daily rituals and by occasional adventures."  In my minds eye I can still picture you and Mac in your U of M grad days--seeing the vitality and attachment of your relationship. After I moved to Vancouver we largely lost touch but Mac and I were involved in CPA activities at about the same time.  His integrity, caring, and professional contributions always shone through. Dan

KK

September 25, 2024 at 7:32 PM

Dear Wendy, I was so saddened to hear of Bob’s death.  Bob was one of my first students when we were both so young.  He was part of an exceptional group of people taking Abnormal Psychology.   Bob came to make a unique contribution to our professional community, but more than that he was a kind, generous person, Both you and Bob represented what is best in the psychology profession.. I have appreciated your friendship as a colleague over the years.  You have my deepest sympathy and affection. Kaye Kerr

Ian Nicholson

September 25, 2024 at 7:32 PM

Bob was one of the finest people I have ever had the blessing to work with. In my memories of him, his kindness and generosity are matched by his concern for our profession and those we are fortunate to serve. Canadian psychology is lessened by the loss of one of its true leaders, and one of its best people. I remember the warmth and thoughtfulness he showed me when I first met him 25 years ago in Edmonton at a CPA convention and have always tried to emulate his manner since then when meeting new colleagues. He helped teach me what it means to be colleague and a professional. I know that I will always pale compared to the example he provided us all. He will be missed but never forgotten.   

Debbie Nielsen (Ostlere)

September 25, 2024 at 7:32 PM

Dear Wendy - I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your husband, Robert. Your tribute was lovely. Please extend condolences from my family to all who loved him.

Nancy Prober

September 25, 2024 at 7:32 PM

To Bob's family - I was very saddened to hear of Bob's passing.  He was my first supervisor after I graduated as a newly minted psychologist and went to work in Thompson.  Just the other day I was telling a friend about his supervision style and how he told me that his job was to make sure the Burntwood Health Authority saw him standing behind me every day I went to work.  I truly felt his support.  He was a kind and highly ethical person who helped me hone my assessment skills.  It was also clear that he cared about my wellbeing.  I remember being at a party at his home and based on a remark I made in passing, he and Wendy made sure I would have something to eat that wouldn't trigger a food sensitivity.  He will be missed.  My heartfelt condolences.

Joseph campbell

September 25, 2024 at 7:32 PM

My deepest condolences to Wendy and Christopher on their shattering loss. I knew Bob professionally from the mid eighties until my retirement in 2004. He was always welcoming and kind. A light has been extinguished for many but his warmth will live on . Dr Joseph Campbell

Dr. Bruce Hutchison

September 25, 2024 at 7:32 PM

Hi Wendy. My deep condolences. Bob was a wonderful man and a great psychologist and will be truly missed by all, although his memories and influence lingers on in many many ways, in intangible ways not even identified I would imagine.  He told me that I should write, and I took it literally and just had my first book published, called Emotions Don't Think, and included his name in the Appreciations page, and had hoped to tell him about it one day. He probably knows about it now but I wanted to make sure that you did also and were aware of the profound impact he had on me. Bruce Hutchison.   

John McIntyre

September 25, 2024 at 7:32 PM

Wendy, Reading Bob’s obit was an incredible gut punch. I have long admired his contributions to the profession of Psychology and to the University of Manitoba. And I have also been impressed with how the two of you were able to develop separate outstanding careers within a beautiful partnership. John McIntyre 

Teresa Sztaba

September 25, 2024 at 7:32 PM

Wendy, my heart goes out to you. I was so saddened and shocked to hear of Bob's death. He was not only a treasured teacher and mentor in my early years as a trainee and psychologist, but also was always available for wise and compassionate consultation about various psychology organizational matters over the ensuing years.  His career was a shining example of what a psychologist can be and do.  Above and beyond contributing so much to the field of psychology in Manitoba and in Canada as a whole, he was one of the kindest, most generous and most ethical people I have known - along with possessing a strong backbone on issues dear to his heart and a gentle sense of humour.  The way in which he was able to take delight in silly and fun things was very special.   My deepest condolences.

Angelo Caputo

September 25, 2024 at 7:32 PM

It's been over 10 years since I last had contact with Bob but I was quite saddened to learn of his unfortunate passing. I first met him as a newly minted psychologist looking to immerse myself into the Canadian Psychology landscape. I applied to serve as the Registrar of the CPA Accreditation Panel, when he was serving as the Chair. He and Karen Cohen interviewed and ultimately decided to take a chance on me. I remember fondly working closely with him for the Accreditation Panel. It struck me how soft-spoken, easy-going, and humble he was, despite his many accomplishments, and the fairness and integrity in how he conducted himself. He mentored and helped ease me into the world of Canadian Psychology and I will forever be grateful to him for that. My deepest condolences to you, Wendy, and you entire family.

Catherine M Lee

September 25, 2024 at 7:32 PM

Dear Wendy, I was deeply saddened to learn of Bob's death.  Bob welcomed me on my first visit to Manitoba so many years ago.  He was a man of integrity and dignity, who embodied the best of Canadian Psychology.  I appreciated all my contacts with him through CPA and was delighted to profile him as a key figure in Canadian Psychology who pushed the boundaries of what our profession can do to reach more people. The beautiful tribute video reminds us that being a psychologist was part of his life, but was eclipsed by his deep love and commitment to family.  An enduring image that stays with me is the end of long conference days when you had each made important professional contributions, you left the venue quietly, holding hands. It was a privilege to have known Bob. I cannot imagine the hole he leaves in your life, but hope that the joys of the life you shared bring comfort. Catherine Lee

John MacMillan

September 25, 2024 at 7:32 PM

I knew Bob in 1975 when he was a new Master's student at Acadia.  I'm not surprised at his success as a psychologist and how well he was respected as he rose in the profession.  He was a wonderful human being and I valued his counsel.  It was long ago and it was far away.   
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